Wednesday, March 5, 2008

I've Never Been So Scared in My Life - Epilogue

So much happened yesterday in a short period of time, there were a couple details I'd forgotten. So here's more of what I remembered after having time to calm down, breathe, and get more oxygen to my brain. As I remembered these details, I formulated a theory about what was going on on the other side of my front door yesterday. Because at first, I could make no sense out why the devil these people were loitering at my front door messing with the door handle for so freaking long. It's just a theory, and I may never know what really happened during that short but terrifying experience. I needed some sort of explanation to make what happened make sense, and at least to me, my theory makes sense.

One thing I didn't mention - when I opened the door for the officers, after I pulled the pamphlets from the door handle, I noticed the witnesses' car parked right in front of my house. I also noticed two people were getting in the car, and there were, I think 4 more plus perhaps a small child - 2 across the street, and two several houses down across the street. The ones with the child were further down the street, and I think it's likely timing-wise, that they were the ones at my door.

I don't know if the officers talked to any of them before knocking on my door. They were nice but all business when they came in. I was too rattled to think of a lot of questions that I'd now like answers for. I suspect the officers DID talk to them, considering the situation. (If they didn't, they should have!) From the time the 911 dispatcher said the officers were here and walking around my house, until the time she told me they were coming to the door, seemed like a long time. It was certainly long enough for them to walk all the way around the house AND talk to the witnesses.

So here's my theory. Maybe the people who came to my door were so absorbed in conversation that they THOUGHT they rang the bell, but actually forgot to. When no one answered, they opened the storm door to leave their pamphlets. Still absorbed in conversation, they are at this point officially loitering at the door.

Since I think I remember seeing a small kid, it might have been the kid, bored as hell, fiddling with the door while the two women were standing there absorbed in conversation with each other and not paying attention. OR, maybe the kid had the job of finding a spot to stick the pamphlets. That might explain the excessive and prolonged fumbling noises.

Especially if it was a bored, mischievous, and maybe a bit obstinate kid. I've seen kids take for freaking ever to do something like clean their room if they don't want to. What kid wants to be going door-to-door in 25 degrees while their mom ignores them and talks to some other adult. I can think of lots of different kid responses to this kind of scenario, such as mischievousness and mindless boredom.

I heard a bang right before the storm door FINALLY closed and it suddenly got quiet. That's when I told the 911 dispatcher I was afraid someone might have gotten in. Now I'm thinking if my theory is correct, maybe the kid tripped and fell into the door. Or maybe the kid's mom grabbed the kid and the kid banged into the door, or maybe she even smacked the kid for messing around and kid lost his/her balance, banging into the door in the process. Jarred out of their conversation when the kid's behavior either gradually or suddenly came into their awareness, they finally left, the storm door closed, and all became quiet as they moved on to find their next victim knock on the next door.

I'll probably never know what was going on on the other side of my door yesterday. This is the best theory I can come up with to make what happened make sense. Making sense of it seems strangely important to me. Maybe it's all those Nancy Drew books I read as a kid. So there. That's my theory, and I'm stickin' to it. It makes me feel better, even if it's not really what happened!

Surprisingly, I slept like a baby last night. (Maybe it was the three beers I drank in the evening to try to finally calm myself down. They helped.) I even slept in this morning. (6:30 a.m. is sleeping in for me.)

I'm terribly grateful that whatever was going on out there on the other side of my front door yesterday only shook me up, instead of rocking my world or worse. I'm feeling very lucky today. Surprisingly exhausted, devoid of energy, but very lucky and very grateful.


  1. Lintys: I am very glad with you that it was only the JW gang. I wish door 2 door anything would be more sensitive to the folks on the inside of the house... I don't open my door for them when I'm home alone. Period. Of course you didn't have that option since you never had a knock.

    Hope today is a happier day for you.

    BTW congrats on the grandbaby coming. You are going to love it!!!! I just put my 2 yr old grandson down for his nap - he will be with me until tomorrow morning. Nothing like it!
    :-) Meems @ HoeandShovel

  2. How scary! I'm so glad you're ok.

  3. Thank you Meems! I'm with you on not opening the door when home alone. I plan to get a no solicitors sign as well. I hope that will discourage them. We do get a lot of people going door-to-door around here. too many. I've never lived anywhere with as many people going door to door all the time.

    Today has been much better! I even worked outside for awhile as therapy for my frazzled nerves.

    This will actually be my 2nd grandchild. I have a 4-year-old grandson as well. A year or so ago he was at my house every day. It was so much fun. I miss that! I'm over-the-moon excited about grandbaby #2!

    Wide Lawns, Thanks for visiting my blog! I've been reading yours for a couple of months. I love your writing. I'm thinking of you with what you've got going on. I hope that situation gets under control very soon.

  4. Anonymous11:52 AM

    Hi Sweetie, Glad everything is o.k. now. I had something like that happen one time when DH was away. 5 am someone drives up our 1/2 mi long driveway, parks outside the bedroom window, and walks to the front door. It was too dark to see who it was, but peeking out I saw them just by the door - contemplating I guess. Then, they go back, get in the car and light up. I called 911 right away. They said they'd send an officer. 10 minutes later, no officer, but the party started up the car and drove off. I called 911 and told them the person was gone. They were on the way and said they'd look for anyone driving that looked suspicious.

    Anyway, I empathize with you as I know how I felt trying to see what was up and keeping out of sight. And you know how isolated we are here, no neighbors in view.

    Love you lots and glad you are feeling better.

  5. oooh Mom, how scary! That must have been a very long ten minutes. I'm glad he decided to leave.

    Why does stuff like that seem to happen when a person is alone??? If DH had been here I'm sure I wouldn't have been as scared. And if George weren't still visiting relatives his ferocious bark would have made me feel less scared too.

    Hopefully your 'visitor' was just someone who was lost and thought your driveway was a road, and not someone looking for trouble.

  6. I had visitors to my door yesterday. Luckily I saw them walking up our road~being winter and deserted I knew they were coming to my house. 2 very smartly dressed men and I made my kids hide in the bathroom and refused to answer the knock. Things would've been different if hubby were home but when I'm alone with the kids I have to keep them safe. So I don't care how long they knock (and they were here for 5 minutes!) I'm not opening the door!

    I really hope that the police did give those JW's a good talking to. Thank goodness your young and healthy but in an older person that could've been enough to trigger a heart attack! The JWs need to be a bit more sensitive.

  7. Five minutes knocking at someone's door when you're not expected and the residents don't know you is. . . ridiculous! I really think they need to re-train their people to be more considerate. I still intend to get a no-solicitors sign. The police said they're not supposed to stop when there's a sign on the door. I think I would have felt better if they had knocked, but just standing their fiddling with the door without even knocking is ignorant! I agree with you Robbin, if husband was home things would have been different!


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